Why showing vulnerability is good for the soul

Vulnerability isn’t a weakness. It’s human. And, conversely, it’s usually the one thing that will demand far more respect than putting on a fake front.

A front is like a stone-cold shield. A barrier that comes between you and your audience, your friends, your colleagues. It strips us of the human ability to connect. And how can you demand respect if you don’t connect?

So why is that? Why is it that in showing our vulnerabilities we are more likely to succeed?

Ruth Cooper-Dickson, a positive psychology coach and founder of Champs Consulting, said: “In demonstrating vulnerability we are allowing people to see our authentic self, flaws and all, and this is something that inspires connection, warmth and empathy in others.

“Of course, you don’t need to feel compelled to give a warts and all approach to it. I know from experience that this can sometimes cause what I describe as a vulnerability hangover – especially in the early stages of re-authoring your story.

“However, if it does make you feel uncomfortable after demonstrating vulnerability just sit kindly with yourself and allow these emotions to flow to help you understand and perhaps recognise what is going on underneath.”

It can feel slightly strange and awkward when you start to own up to the fears you have or the nerves you are experiencing. But, believe me, it’s worth pushing through that because you’ll find so much relief in the long term.

Ruth added: “If we can truly begin to unlock our authentic self and embrace our vulnerabilities, we can very quickly feel more at home in whatever situation we find ourselves in.” 

It’s taken me a long time, and I’m certainly not perfect with loving and owning my vulnerabilities, but I’m getting there. And it’s making life a much more satisfying place to be.

To find out more about how to embracing your vulnerability and your ‘mental wealth’ more broadly, check out Ruth’s:

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