5 tips for writing a funny bride’s speech for your wedding day

Thinking of giving a wedding speech on your big day? We’ve got you covered. Here’s our ‘I do’s’ and ‘I don’ts’ for writing a bride’s speech.

Written by High Life North
Published 16.05.2022

For too long, women’s voices have been missing from wedding days.

From the emotional father-of-the-bride’s speech to the highly anticipated best man’s speech, this male-dominated wedding tradition is becoming outdated.

Now it’s time that we ladies have our voices heard. And with the toasts being many guests’ favourite part of the wedding day, we can’t blame you for feeling the pressure to smash those heart-warming words, crack those hilarious jokes and have the guts to even stand up in front of a room full of people

As the bride, you’ll want to top the best man’s speech and show your guests that you can confidently deliver something that’ll leave the crowd laughing, crying and smiling. But if you’re not sure where to start, we’ve got you covered. Here are our ‘I do’s’ and ‘I don’ts’ for writing the best wedding speech of all time…

The element of surprise

The advantage that you have for your speech is that you know your spouse better than anyone else. Romantic relationships unlock a side to us that no one else sees, especially when we live together. Whether it reveals your loved one’s good qualities or frustrating habits, you’re bound to have some cute stories to tell about them. Revealing something unknown to the guests will also provide a shock factor that will add some laughter, ensuring that you take the crown for the best speech.



Inside jokes are a no-go

It’s essential to avoid any inside jokes. Whether it’s between you and your partner, or your circle of friends, the rest of the guests won’t understand and you won’t get too many laughs. Instead, you’ll most likely hear crickets. So just keep jokes generic enough to stay relevant to your crowd, but not so much that it sounds like you’ve just found them on Google.



Avoid inappropriate content

Don’t try to outdo the best man’s speech by including anything that could be considered too much information. What some may find entertaining, others may find inappropriate – particularly your partner’s family. Keeping it tasteful doesn’t mean it can’t be hilarious; consider some funny memories from the start of your relationship that’ll put a smile on the families’ faces, rather than making them feel uncomfortable.

Relieve your stress

It’s normal to be feeling the heat in the lead-up to your speech. But confidence is key when it comes to public speaking, particularly when you’re aiming to make your guests laugh until they cry. If you don’t sound confident in your jokes, your guests won’t feel it either, so you may just see some puzzled faces. But how are you supposed to ease your nerves before speaking in front of a crowd?

According to a 2018 study, just a short 10-minute walk is enough to relieve your stress. Obviously, you can’t just disappear mid-proceedings, so set some time aside on the morning of your wedding to do this, perhaps before you begin to get ready. Not only will this help with your speech, but it will also relax you for the whole day ahead.



Stay in touch with your emotions

Humour may not be your forte, so you may be tempted to devote most of your attention to perfecting it. But it is your wedding day after all, so it’s important to display your affection towards your partner, as well as your loved ones who have supported you on your journey.

Don’t forget to include some special memories that you and your partner have shared as a way of expressing your gratitude towards them ­– you might even see your guests shed some tears from being so touched. This way, you’re giving the best of both worlds in your speech, so you can be confident knowing you’ll have impressed the crowd in every way possible.

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