By Kerrie Patterson

The internal agony 

As Christmas draws closer, many people will be focusing on precious time with their family. For some, however, Christmas is a painful reminder of the desperately wanted family they don’t have. With many couples now choosing to start a family later, or struggling with fertility issues, this can be the painful reality they face.

So how does it feel when you’re struggling to conceive? Pretty awful, to be honest. I know, I’ve been there, as have many of my friends and family. That gut-wrenching feeling each month when you realise that yet again, you’re not pregnant.

That quiet, internal agony when couples around you announce their exciting baby news.

You want to be happy for them, and actually, you are. You just wish it was you.

The effect on mental wellbeing

Thankfully, this is starting to be talked about much more – and so it should be. The effect on a person’s mental health, never mind the relationship difficulties it can bring, should never be underestimated. The feelings of frustration, worthlessness and guilt can be all-consuming. Add to that depression and anxiety, and you should be starting to get a picture. Sometimes just acknowledging this and realising that it’s normal can help.